So glad you discussed the situation with her dad. No parent really wants to hear that their child (adult or not) has issues, but I think now he will be able to see the whole picture and adjust his answers to her in a way that reflects the truth.

I think by disclosing to him, he will be in a better position to be a friend to the marriage, to be supportive of you both. Let's hope that's how it will be.

Your wife has no choice now but to inner reflect. She has to own a little shame here, and that is part of the process, I think. It's not the sort of thing you can skip over and ignore. Accountability is part of the recovery, and parents are good at making sure that is seen through - even when their kids are adults. We can hope.


"Stop yappin and make it happen."
"The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you."

Me 47
DH 46
Together for 28 years.
Married 21 years.