kt, In my experience with him, I am the most horrible person imaginable and incompetent as a wife and mother AFTER I've called him on something.

If things are going well (iow, he hasn't betrayed me lately, or I have offered forgiveness for a betrayal) then I am a Proverbs 31 woman and the most solid person he's ever known. I am a rock and he is so grateful and wants to be like me.

He has told me that most people are not as open and honest as I am, and that is why I have problems relating to people. They don't know how to take it. Society is not honest, and I should adapt?

Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
(Oscar Wilde)