Hi cwmi,

I guess I am emphasizing that this is a deal breaker, because I don't see any way for you guys to come up with a win-win scenario unless your husband gives up the travel entirely, you will not be happy.

I am not blaming you or faulting you for your feelings on this point. Only stating the obvious.

If you won't budge, and he won't budge, and there is no other way he can make you happy (or vice versa), then you should go to plan B (in my opinion).

He can strive to fill your lovebank in every other single way, but if this a deal breaker, then he has to know that. He has no chance to make you happy if the hole in your lovebucket is gaping as a result of travel.

If it's a dealbreaker, then it's a dealbreaker. You deserve to be with someone who gives you what you need, and he deserves to be with someone who gives him what he needs.

That's my opinion.

Me 42
H 46
Married 12 years
Two children D9 and D4 !