Originally Posted by CWMI
Originally Posted by writer1
I wasn't SAYING that. I was WONDERING. That's why I asked.

What did you expect me to say? If you expected anything other than what I said, I'd like to know why.

I think I was wondering if there is something specific about your H's line of work that is very important and meaningful to him that he doesn't want to give up, even if it does require some travel. I agree that your M should come first, but I think most people need something else in their lives to feel fulfilled. For many men, this is their career. And if your career provides your H with a sense of fulfillment, and he must travel to have this career, then he may fear that he will have to give up something that is very important to him.

I'm not saying I think travel is a good idea in a M. And I certainly don't agree that travel is required for all jobs. My H has never traveled for work in any of his jobs. I've never traveled for work in any of my jobs.

But I do think you need to find out why this particular line of work is important to your H and what needs it fulfills for him. Some jobs do require travel. I don't know what your H does for a living, but pilot comes to mind. If it was someone's lifelong dream to become a pilot, I would think it would be very difficult to fulfill this dream without traveling. And, if someone had wanted to be a pilot since they were a child, having to give up that dream might be very difficult and create a huge sense of sacrifice.

I have wanted to be a writer since I was 5 (literally, that's when I wrote my first story and knew that's what I wanted to do). If my H decided that he wasn't okay with my writing (for whatever reason) and he wanted me to give that up, I would have a really hard time with that. But my H would never do that, because he knows how much my writing means to me.

Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
DD: 28
OC: 10
BH and I are raising my OC together.