Pardon, I am a O.T. quarterback, but I believe a call to Dr. H may be in your best intrest.

Have you considered the root of this issue just may be control?

If this is true, job/travel will be only one of dozens of arguments you may have.

You will never POJA if the root of the issue is who is in charge.

The 40's may be a ripe age for changing marriage dynamics,
(this does not meant that two educated people can not learn the pitfalls and rewards of coping with this.)

Does not mean the MB can not help you, I think MB opened my thinking into learning about relationship dynamics.

Me; W 46
Him; H 46

2 girls
Dated/Married total 28 years.
..I am learning and working on myself.