By the way......
There is nothing wrong with being a alpha or passive person.

I have often been called "Martha Stewart on crack!" I thought I was doing GOOD! (I admit, I kind of still do.)

In healthy relationships, partners accept and encourage this differnce. They compliment each other.
But when the balance gets out of whack-- control issues can tailspin into abusive behaviors.

The job and travel issues may not be the underlaying cause of your current problems. Just think about that for awhile.

Also, in control related issues, it is never one partner over the other. NO one is submissive all of the time. I think both parties share the alpha role. Sometimes you can get a tug of war.

Just my honest opinion


Last edited by barbiecat; 11/11/10 11:29 AM.
Me; W 46
Him; H 46

2 girls
DD19
DD16
Dated/Married total 28 years.
..I am learning and working on myself.