Just heard from a friend with a similar story as mine hubby was always a little quirky but after tour to Iraq in 2004 (same time as my ex) has shown major, major signs of mental illness, to the point of becoming dangerous. He refuses to deal with it, as did my ex and the hubby of another of my friends whose marriage is almost over.

Does anyone have ideas on how to get these guys to get help? When I used to teach military students, I urged all of them to be observant and when their coworker comes back from the desert a little funny to make sure they get help before they become a threat to (and thus lose) their family.

But how do we get these men to undertand they need professional help?

"If you will stop feeding your feelings, then they will stop controlling you" -Joyce Meyer