Well, I'd have to say I never stopped thinking about it. I thought things were going great until the topic that started this thread, and ever since, I just...think about things. I guess the catalyst was Sunday when church put out another Great Date pamphlet, designed for husbands to create great dates for their wives. After the announcement, I told him I'd like it if he picked it up and took me on it, we had such a good time the last one.

And then he didn't. Pick up the pamphlet.

Then last night, I'm setting the table for ds13's (now ds14's) B-day dinner, and H is coming behind me moving the plates to be about 1/2 inch closer to the edge of the table. It annoyed the crap out of me. I said, "Is that necessary?" He looked sheepish and walked off, I finished serving and we ate...

So later he said, "We need a date night. What would you like to do?"

I said, "I'd like to go on the Great Date our church has out. Why didn't you pick it up?"

He asked me why didn't *I* pick it up, and I kinda, er, went off. "I didn't pick it up because our church doesn't put it out as a way for WIVES to instruct their HUSBANDS, but to give guidance to the husbands themselves! Why would I want to be the only wife in a line of MEN picking up instructions for MY OWN DATE?"

He said that he doesn't like to make plans for us because he always gets them wrong.

I said, "Like the way I set the table wrong? Should I just NOT do it then because I can't do it right?"

He said the point was taken, but like many points I've made over the years, I think he doesn't get it and just wanted me to shut up.

Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
(Oscar Wilde)