She should be. One of the things she complained about after my statement was her surprise when I said "lately things have been much better between us". She said something like "maybe things have changed for you, but who says they have changed for me?" I told her to please keep me apprised of how she feels about us. I will do the same. As I have. I told her that recently I was content with "us", which was basically the first time I felt that way since day 2 of our honeymoon. I have told her for the past 15+ years that I am unhappy and for the past 6 have said I cannot see past the kids graduation. We had marriage counselling sessions where she said "he just said he is leaving when the kids leave". I replied that I couldn't say one way or the other. My recent statements of contentment would be seen in that context by anyone who was paying attention. My wife is far from stupid. She knows exactly where she stands. If not, it is because she won't allow herself to know. Not because I haven't told her.

Just yesterday she said something like "I never realized that side of our life was such an epic fail for you". Really? Never realized? After 8 years of marriage counselling? After countless private conversations? You thought I was PRETENDING to be unhappy about our sex life? REALLY?!?!?

When you can see it coming, duck!