Originally Posted By: holdingontoit
she is rethinking whether I am the man she wants to spend the rest of her life with.

I apologized, but also said she needs to get out of denial. Maybe what I said hurt her feelings, but it is not a shocking, unexpected announcement. It is consistent with countless discussions over the past 15 years. If she is rethinking our entire relationship over that one bad joke,


Hold, you do need to ask yourself a few questions.

What were you thinking her response would be to your bad joke?

Is your wifes response of "things not being better her lately", a defensive throw away? Or is there more to it and that you are not reading it?

What do you think your wife wants from a relationship (besides 10 million dollars)?

Hold the reality is that your wife chose you/ married you because she liked you. You really did not have to then do anything. All you had to do, is not mess it up.

You need to keep in mind that 19yrs of resentments on both sides will take more than a few weeks to unwind.