Both of you married very selfish, manipulative, material money grubbing women who don't want to work very hard in the marriage or at anything else. These women have you wrapped in guilt, shame, and low self esteem and cowering in fear at thier feet as they walk all over you and continually push over your weak personal boundaries.

Time to man up,, be courageous, and start leading your marriages into being better. Both spouses must POJA things, and fill each other's needs. Both must strive for romantic love though one spouse can begin this process.