Hold, perhaps it's your total lack of self confidence and your self-deprecating demeanor that your wife does not find attractive. I don't know many women who would be attracted to a man who has such a low opinion of himself. Something for you to consider at least.

Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
DD: 28
OC: 10
BH and I are raising my OC together.