Bubbles, the thing is until Hold has more self-esteem, nothing will change. It seems as though he doesn't view himself as attractive or having to offer the female population much except maybe a paycheck. And so he assumes that if he leaves his wife, he won't find anyone else anyway (and be alone) and that it will negatively impact the kids.

I could be wrong, but that's how I see it.

Husband (me) 39
Wife 36
Daughter 21
Daughter 19
Son 14
Daughter 10
Son 8 (autistic)