I think that you just have to deal with being seen as the bad guy right now. You can tell your wife and daughter together how much you feel you can afford to spend on her birthday celebrations and all of you brainstorm together.

You can do this without love busting, and be a caring but responsible adult. Its not within your control how they react to it, only how you behave.

ETA: Just seen NED's reply. She said it better than I did. I agree with her.

Last edited by Rosycheeks; 01/28/11 09:09 AM.
Me: 32
H: 35
Married 9 years, together 12.
Two little girls, 7 and 3.