Rosy, good point. But remember, in my marriage I am the romantic partner. She is basically saying "if you did not pursue me romantically, there would be no romance." She is correct that I would like it if she fed me popcorn. She is in no way shape or form offering to feed me popcorn. I am the puppy, she is the cat. I am Odie. She is Garfield. She knows me. That doesn't mean she respects, admires or is attracted to me.

When you can see it coming, duck!