Rosy: No problem. Usually it is the guy who is not romantic. In many ways, Mrs. Hold and I are gender reversed. If we had been smart, I would have stayed home with the kids and she would have worked outside the home. I think we would both have been happier that way. Oh well.

HHH: yes, I understand I am setting a bad example by not "going for the gold". My kids know I am miserable. Hopefully that will motivate them to choose differently.

CTF: yes, my experience of the cat-puppy dynamic is very similar to yours.

When you can see it coming, duck!