I think at this point she is making more of an effort in her life and in our marriage than I am. I have given up trying. Both in life and as to our marriage. Lately she has tried to spur me to put some effort into my life. But I am immune to her words.

SD: the fact that she is a fine woman does not mean that we are compatible. I know Dr. Harley says any couple can learn to be compatible. Perhaps. But I am not willing to become the man she would find attractive. For a man who was willing and able to meet her ENs, I think she could be an excellent wife. I have been saying that here for years. The problem is, I am not that man.

When you can see it coming, duck!