I think both of you guys, Hold and HitchHiker, would feel a lot better if your wives were actively contributing to the household finances in a substantial way.

In my previous marriage, my wife didn't want to work, spent a load (keeping us in the red EVERY month), and on top of that, wasn't interested in sex.

Honestly, it was the financial fallout that led me to realize I could not continue int he marriage, not the lack of sex.

If she had seriously helped out that way, I could have worked with it.

Let's face it, providing for a family financially is a huge task.
And for some reason, it seems to be taken lightly and for granted in many marriages.