That is an awful stalemate. She has you over a barrel sex wise, knowing full well she is your only chance at SF.

And you are her sole source of wealth, her most cherished commodity.

It's an interesting case. She did try to circumvent the situation by spending anyway, leaving the family with huge debts.

In my previous marriage, it was the same way, and she did circumvent by spending anyway. How do you prevent someone from getting their own credit card and racking it up? Or gouging into shared accounts?

She could get pretty mean, too, for a pint-sized little blonde.

My current relationship is much different, much more equitable.
We both work professional jobs, we both save for the future, we both do the chores around the house, and we both enjoy each other greatly.

It makes for a much more enjoyable existence.