Originally Posted by Prisca
Go back and read Markos' post. It is very difficult to fill her Love Bank right now because of the holes you have punched into it. You have been guilty of some severe LB. She has withdrawn to protect herself. It's going to take awhile for her to come out of that withdrawal and accept that you're not going to attack her this time.

Stop expecting reactions. You are making small deposits. Eventually she will respond, if you have completely eliminated LB.

Patience.

3 days doesn't cut it. It's going to take much longer than that before she can trust you again.

Yup.


In fact, stop expecting anything. Just do.

Write her a nice little note, and include things that she has done in the past that felt affectionate to you, that you liked.

I had to write FWW a list of affectionate gestures, because somehow she had brainfarted affection away.

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