Originally Posted by Hilltopper1972
Originally Posted by markos
Originally Posted by Hilltopper1972
I know for certain my wife hated this weekend.

Correct me if I'm wrong, but she really wasn't enthusiastic about the weekend originally, was she?

She planned the entire weekend months ago. I thought it sounded fun. She told me she didn't want to go on the trip because we were fighting and didn't want to have to "put on a smiley face" around family as if everything was ok. I was totally down with not going because I was feeling much the same about it. A day or two passed, they were fairly pleasant and we both decided together we definitely wanted to go. It wasn't all bad, there were many really fun times we had with the kids and each other for sure.

Okay, the scenario wasn't exactly what I thought it was, then.

See how much damage fighting does? First it almost robbed you of a great opportunity to deposit love units in your account. Then, it transformed that opportunity into an experience your wife hated.

You have got to stop the fighting; you have got to unilaterally disarm.

Hilltopper, I'm concerned that your wife feels like she needs a break from Marriage Builders. That tells me she doesn't feel like this has been a win for her. That tells me she feels like you are asking more from her than you are giving.

Put the problem of your own love busters on the front burner and solve it, fast! Put the problem of her meeting or not meeting your emotional needs on the back burner until this problem is dealt with.

If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app!

Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8.
Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010

If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.