Remember that in order for your ENs to stick, you need to stop LBing. It's hard to keep emotional attachments and/or feel safe when you're constantly in a state of stress or irritability.

So eliminating your LBs are key.

Make meeting your needs as easy as possible. If you snap at her for not meeting your needs because you've done A,B,and C for her will make her feel nervous.

Learn to like and love each other.

Husband (me) 39
Wife 36
Daughter 21
Daughter 19
Son 14
Daughter 10
Son 8 (autistic)