Originally Posted by Hilltopper1972
Markos I hear you and am on board. What I keep asking and still don't have the answer for is the following.

Are you looking for an answer on how to guarantee that your wife will meet your needs?

There is no such answer. That will always be of her free will.

This is a difficult pill to swallow, and the danger is that the way react to this may be controlling (SDs, DJs, AOs).

What we can do is maximize the chances that your wife will meet your needs. You do that by building your balance in her love bank. The plan for that is to meet her emotional needs and avoid love busters. That's the only plan that works. If you are lucky she communicates with you and gives you helpful information to make your aim as accurate as possible. Many people are not that lucky, although some of those people have still succeeded at this.


If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app!

Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8.
Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010

If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.