Originally Posted by Hilltopper1972
Often times DJ's involve tone and are hard to recognize. Many times I recognize the obvious ones, but sometimes the not so obvious ones take a bit longer.


All the more reason to start using the forms instead of talking about DJs on the spot.

It's a lot easier to be respectful and control your emotions using the forms, too -- you can edit yourself 3 or 4 times if you need to before showing your spouse what you wrote.

Don't discuss the forms. Don't argue about what is written, about whether or not they are REALLY DJs or how it was all just a misunderstanding. You respectfully write down what she said, how she said it, and how you felt. Do so with the mindset of helping her take care of you, NOT with the mindset of showing her how wrong she is.

Allow her to do the same.

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