Originally Posted by Prisca
Originally Posted by Hilltopper1972
When you were going through this did the phrase KNOCK IT OFF really get you motivated?

During the trauma I caused in our marriage last year, no, it is NOT something I would've wanted to hear. BUT, how I wish some kind soul had hit me over the head with those words and showed me what I was doing to my marriage.

When you're not following the program (i.e. DJing your wife in spite of your plan, not meeting her EN and not providing her with an ENQ) and persist in having pity parties, your marriage is going to fail. Horribly. In light of a devastated home, "knock it off" seems rather tame.

No real frustration here, Hill. Something I learned while here that really helped me: If something someone on this board says ruffles your feathers, listen and take notes. There's probably a reason it bothers you, and the problem probably doesn't lie with the messenger. Usually. smile

The most hilarious thing I've seen in his thread which I've done as well is copy and paste actual emails in an attempt to prove to the forum his behavior is justified. I took the same approach almost instinctively. The one last night my wife and I read said something like, "Don't call me on the phone today." We chuckled, but only because we are looking in retrospect, not because it was actually funny.

Married 15 years
12 y/o DD
10 y/o DS
6 y/o DD