kt, to this post: do you think your wife could have known you for years without knowing you had an interest in video games at all?

Because that's what I'm talking about. Not just not having conversations about it, but being completely unaware that it was an interest, after several years of marriage and ALL the children were born.

To me, being completely unaware is different from not discussing every new development in the hobby.

Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
(Oscar Wilde)