Originally Posted by Hilltopper1972
What I can't do is fly by the seat of my pants and have all parts of our life "up in the air" and in limbo.
You have been told repeatedly to start scheduling UA, with or without your wife. When are you going to do it?

In other words, "please honey just answer my questions directly." "please say what you mean and mean what you say so I don't get confused so much." "please respond to my emails with answers so I know what the answer is."
Okay, you've made your requests. What are you going to do if she doesn't respond? Turn them into demands?

As I sit here in my office as we speak there are no plans for tonight. I don't know what to expect, I'll do whatever she wants to do, and I'm almost always willing to, but I just never know until the moment is upon us and that is maddening to keep up with.

Make plans. Ask her if she likes them. If she doesn't, suggest something else. If she still doesn't, try again tomorrow.

You really need to make these plans a week ahead of time and discuss them with her before the week even starts.

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