Originally Posted by rubydoo
It just appeared to me that you are unwilling to do what you can for birth control (vasectomy) but expect your wife to be willing to take birth control, get an IUD , whatever. I guess the only options I see you focusing on are options that require her to do something be it take bc, get an IUD, etc.

I realize you have legitimate concerns regarding an vasectomy and why you don't want one...do you realize your wife has legitimate concerns regarding bc or an IUD and why she doesn't want to go those routes?

I'm not saying you aren't discussing options together. I'm saying the only options seem to be focused on her.

Rubydoo,

Having not read my wife's post on that subject, I know not what you mean! We are using POJA to decide a solution, no one has decided the solution has to work only for her. Either you came to that conclusion on your own incorrectly, or my wife has posted something that has said something similar. Either case, let me say it again, we are deciding together on the best course of action for us whether it be me, her, or both of us.

Married 15 years
12 y/o DD
10 y/o DS
6 y/o DD