Are you still considering calling Steve Harley for phone counseling? You mentioned it a few posts up, and it seems like a great idea.

You both sound so well intentioned; it is sad to keep reading the unintentional hurt you cause each other, and it seems some professional coaching would help.

I'm wishing the best for you both.

50+ yo couple enjoying our empty nest.
Young adult kids out on their own.
"Enthusiastic agreement?" is our catch phrase.