She isn't asking me to get a V consult, she is demanding it
Yes, and she is WRONG. She knows it, too, which is probably why she hasn't been hanging around the board. You're probably not going to get anywhere on the BC issue until she becomes willing to negotiate with you, using the rules for negotiation.

I suggested to you both a while back that you use a temporary BC method until you were further along in the program and had more experience with negotiation. Did the two of you consider doing this and revisiting the issue again? Perhaps you should suggest that to her again.

You're going to need to stop warning her about getting back with MB -- this will be seen as you teaching her, which will be considered a DJ. Good job on apologizing.

You might put off talking about BC for a few weeks and concentrate on filling her lovebank -- conversation and affection.

Markos' Wife
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