She said she would have had a tubal during the c-section of our third child had she known that at the time. Bad situation and I wish it was avoided. I can't take it back though and she brings it up repeatedly.
She is dwelling on the past.

You were once willing to consider a V. She was once willing to consider a tubal. Now, you don't want a V, and she refuses to consider her own sterilization.

She is just as guilty about changing her mind as you are.

The way to handle this is negotiate in the NOW. Throw out past agreements, they are no longer relevant. Today is what matters.

By the way Prisca, my wife said verbatim, "I don't care what you tell Prisca, she is irrelevant to anything I care about."
I'll take that as a compliment. laugh The reason she doesn't like me right now is because I refuse to coddle her.

The slap of a friend can be trusted to help you, but the kisses of an enemy are nothing but lies. Proverbs 27:6

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