Can you at least find non intercourse ways to be close physically? I know that contraception choices suck, that there is just no option that does not have side effects and its about finding the one you can both tolerate most easily.

We keep returning to the IUD, deciding its the lesser of two evils each time we decide to try something else so I'm now on my third one of those.

Me: 32
H: 35
Married 9 years, together 12.
Two little girls, 7 and 3.