Originally Posted by holdingontoit
I understand that he should not do anything if he is not enthusiastic. Just pointing out how this may come across to his wife, so he can explore her feelings.

They need to explore the other methods of birth control besides condoms or vasectomy. They need to explore other aspects of sex besides PIV intercourse. He needs to create a safe environment to discuss these things so she can share her truth.

I wrote what I would be thinking if I were his wife. I doubt she would admit to thinking those thoughts if she were thinking them. As he tries to create a safe environment for her, he needs to take into account that she may have fears he cannot imagine.

My wife has pushed off all forms of intimacy, including non-PIV things. The resent is building by the day in me and I feel it little by little overwhelming my thoughts. Something very odd also happened that is unanswered. She had a phone appointment about a month or two ago with her doctor about BC. She never told me what they discussed. I've asked her five times since then and she avoids answering the question. She said, "you don't have to get a V," but then she keeps bringing it up.

Married 15 years
12 y/o DD
10 y/o DS
6 y/o DD