So I sent my wife the Four Guidelines for Successful Negotiations. I sent it to her respectfully and only if "she was open to it." I let her know from my perspective her need for honesty and my need for SF are the same. There is no such thing as one being more valuable or important than the other. My wife doesn't respect my need for sex at the present time. I let her know I'd be honest with her at all times even if I am scared at getting yelled at, so we'll see how it goes. Historically when we don't agree on something I just "give in" to what she wants and she tends to "avoid" the problem. This is not good and leads us to the same place we are now every time.

Married 15 years
12 y/o DD
10 y/o DS
6 y/o DD