Originally Posted By: indiegirl


So it is inappropriate? How? When was the first time he said something inappropriate to you and did you tell your h?



He wrote about a time we were all going somewhere together and a song came on the radio. Apparently, I was signing along to it. He said that everytime he hears the song he thinks of me singing some sexually-based lyrics (that I do not recall saying...but who knows?). [I did not write the exact phrase here as it would be edited out.]

Originally Posted By: indiegirl


Have you and this OM ever had a discussion about these feelings you have?



no. never.

Originally Posted By: indiegirl


How did you not feel it was relevant to show your h that his so called friend is predatory towards you, his wife?

YOUR job is not to predict his 'blow off' reaction btw but to keep yourself honest and your side of the street clean.



i never discussed any feelings with his friend and i couldn't blame him for my behavior.

alright, i will try to stop predicting my DH's reaction.


Originally Posted By: heartfelt_1
Indie,

I need to be able to know that they are going to remain friends, hear DH talk about him to me every other day, hear his GF talk about him to me, and overcome this thing.

Originally Posted By: indiegirl


You arent going to be able to do that. You must convince your h of the danger facing your marriage by being RADICALLY honest.




THANKS! That is one of the things I needed to know...if we can recover with them remaining friends.


Me: WW
DH: BS
EA: 04/18/09 til
DDay: 06/30/10
NC letter: 09/13/11 (against DH's will)
2 lovely happy children