Originally Posted by Hilltopper1972
Wife and I went to a party last night. Everybody was having a good time. I spent quite a bit of time by myself because we had baby with us and my wife is a bit of a social butterfly. Later in the evening her best friend's husband gave my wife a "peck" on the lips. I didn't think much of it at the time. When we got home my wife felt the need to bring it up and said, "that is just what he does when he gets drunk," to everyone. I told her it didn't bother me at the time. The truth is(and keep in mind I hold in my feelings like I am right at this moment), is that it makes me insecure and wonder if she is having an affair all over again. I mean who goes to a party for 6 hours and spends only 20 minutes of it with his own wife?

Instead of running off on a tangent about an affair, I would simply tell her "I thought about this, and it does bother me. I am not okay with another man kissing you, even when drunk."

Personally, I would also quit going to such parties. Who wants to be around drunks?

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