Originally Posted by Hilltopper1972
We agreed to be selfish about time alone with each other and both feel that if we accomplish that most other things will fall in line. It worked before and it will again.

I think that's probably essentially true.

We had a long chat this morning and although the flirtations are not appropriate, it was really the notion that I spent much of the party by myself with our baby while my wife visited with her friends that bothered me

Okay, we've established what bothers you. But there is an additional issue, what would bother your wife if she felt bonded to you. I'll bet anything that if your wife was more bonded to you she would be bothered by you talking about your sex life with another woman. And even if not, I can tell you from the experiences people have seen here that it's not safe!

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If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.