I think too that it would go a long day in a calm time to tell him that you understand that some things just seem to be too much for him... and that's okay.

Do you think he may be one of those electric fence types, who twist themselves into pretzels to avoid doing things that come easily to everyone else, but are like beyond painful to them? Like calling the cable company or reading directions 10 months ago when he could put it off for the foreseeable future?

Me 40, OD 18 and YD 13
Married 15 years, Divorced 10/2010