I let him know that its not okay with me for him to be snappish or yelly, and have wound up walking away from the conversation after erm, giving a warning. Honestly, and here's another DJ: I think he believes he's above directions. It probably is beyond painful for him to read something that goes against what he believes to be true, ie he already knows how something works and he doesn't need any dam manufacturer telling him how it works because he has divined it!

Sometimes I wonder though if he does just want me to do everything. Maybe it's a DJ for me to think he is actually smarter than he acts sometimes. Like when we were on tthe boat this weekend, we had some friends out with us, and H and the other H were on the boat while me and other W were in the water, and the kids climbed aboard wanting fed. H was hollering down to me, "are all these sandwiches the same? Where are the plates? Did you bring napkins? Where are those?" we always get the same sandwiches, and we brought one bag on board, LOOK! Everything you seek must be in there!
After the second or third question, I started paddling over and said I'd just come up and take care of it. He said no, I got it. I said thanks. Then he hollared that I'd put the tables away wrong.

I said Thanks! again. I know I didn't, what else was I supposed to do? Argue the point? Not worth it!

Marriage is the triumph of imagination over intelligence. Second marriage is the triumph of hope over experience.
(Oscar Wilde)