I've taken my assistance with kids and house to an entirely new level. She refuses my help with laundry, but I make them all breakfast every morning while she is at the gym, pack lunches. I give 50% of the baths, I tell her daily how hard it is to be a stay at home mommy, etc.

Last night she fell asleep on the couch right after we got the kids down together for the 10th time in 15 days. She said are you mad at me? I said "no I'm disappointed we didn't get to hang out." I want to spend time with my wife badly and she says she wants to spend time with me, all I know is that no matter what and without fail she makes time to hit the gym every morning. From my perspective I can only grant someone circumstantial understanding if those same struggles affected all parts of her life rather than just spending time with me. I asked her if we could go on a date this week and she said yes so we'll see how it goes.