Originally Posted by Hilltopper1972
I want to spend time with my wife badly and she says she wants to spend time with me, all I know is that no matter what and without fail she makes time to hit the gym every morning.

She could make changes that would help your relationship, sure, but it is completely unproductive to go down this road. You are just training your brain to resent her by dwelling on it.

After we've kicked your love bank deposits up high enough that you start to get through to her, she'll be a lot more motivated to spend time with you. You've got to win her over, attract her back to you. In order for that to be genuine, she's got to be free to reject you.


If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app!

Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8.
Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010

If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.