By the way I heard a show a couple of weeks back where Dr H talking about radical honestly trumping everything else, so this is the path I'm taking and to be perfectly honest I think in the long run it will smooth out.

Be careful that you do not take this as permission to lovebust -- Radical Honesty does not include DJs.

And you're still DJing, btw. You write about your wife the same way Markos used to write about me. Made me sick every time I read his posts about me. And it hindered our recovery greatly. What ever you say about her here, you might as well be saying it to her face.

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