Originally Posted by Hilltopper1972
Thanks man. I feel normal! It is funny that I'm extremely disciplined in certain areas of my life almost to obsession yet I find myself compelled to respond to disrespect with more of the same. Don't do that Hill!

Exactly! It's as simple as that!

When you are used to thinking rationally and trying to put your emotions aside to make rational decisions, it's easy to miss it sometimes when you are failing to do that and instinct is taking over. We are all experts in self-deception. smile

I had to build the habit of "shutting up" before I could start to build more rational habits of response.

Every love buster you eliminate brings you one step closer to tipping past the romantic love threshold. Everything changes at that point. There will be no gradual changes leading up to it, few signs that you are making any progress. And then there will be a sudden change.


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