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That is great, hold!!  Wow! yes it is. Good for you both.
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Just wanted to poke my head in and say that after 19+ years of being disappointed, and 14+ years of openly fighting with Mrs. Hold, we have finally gotten our sex life to a place where I am comfortable with it. Never thought we would get here. Not sure how we did. But I appreciate all the support I received over the years here at MB. Congratulations, hold! This is great to hear!
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Hold, I have seen you on SO many boards I lurk or post on. You're like a constant in my online universe.
CONGRATULATIONS!!!! This is wonderful news.
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Well of course neither of us can handle success. We have not had sex since the last great session. This morning was our typical dance of disaster. Neither wanting to make themselves vulnerable. So we hurt each other instead. So you don't have to worry about 2012 being the year of the apolcalypse. Everything back to normal. Nothing to see here. Carry on.
When you can see it coming, duck!
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Hold, have you heard of subtlety?
Maybe try a radar test first to see whether your target is in range.
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Jack, how much more subtle can you be than getting up to pee, brushing your teeth, then getting back into bed? I didn't ask. I didn't move closer to her. I just got back into bed and lay about 2 feet away from her on my side. I didn't move. Before I could do anything, she pre-empted and said "I have to be at my exercise class in an hour, so we don't have time for anything." That was Tuesday.
Then this morning she turned me down for our standing Thursday date. Then she refused to give me a hug or kiss goodbye when I was ready to leave for work. Then she got angry when I gave her a forlorn grin and said "it is what it is". She was angry that I made her feel guilty. Total BS. I treat her well. She turned me down. She darn well should feel guilty. Not my fault. Hers. She made this bed. Not my fault she doesn't like the feel of these sheets. She picked them out.
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Hold, have you considered that it may be possible, that you do not handle rejection quite so well?
If history tells us anything, you will have another chance.
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Hold is a spittin image of me!  Hold I'm on your side. She "sensed" you wanted sex and made a point to block it. That feels like [censored] and i don't blame you. It is not a personality flaw to not handle rejection well. The spouse should know this and minimize doing things that hurt his ego. It is a lot easier than telling Hold to "not" feel things you know?
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Maybe Hold will come back for an update, Hill, I think you'll be encouraged how things have changed there!
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Hold?? how are you doing??
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