Originally Posted by markos
Ah, now we are getting to her complaints! If you can make some serious headway on those things that are never quite right, those things that are occupying her mind, you would become her partner in the solutions to the problems she is experiencing in life.

Are there any obstacles to doing that? Seriously, there's a good chance that this is the way to go. She is expressing unmet emotional needs here, and these problems are distracting her from intimacy.

No no obstacles in my mind, financially or other to do this. She may not want to outsource all of our laundry so I'll have to figure out what goes and what doesn't.

Married 15 years
12 y/o DD
10 y/o DS
6 y/o DD