Geez I need to regroup and visit daily here and stop the patterns. My wife appears to be content with a marriage just the way it is. Either that or she is simply not in love with me and therefore I don't get from her what I need. I get tired of putting in the effort like this morning, got frustrated, and was disrespectful to my wife. I apologized, but like Prisca said, I have to end the behavior that prevents her from being in love with me and us having a great marriage. I don't have a willing participant of MB to work with so that means I'll have to do the heavy lifting until she reaches a point where she does fall back in love with me. I'm gonna go read the basic concepts and develop a plan because I'm not ok with a marriage without love and care.

Married 15 years
12 y/o DD
10 y/o DS
6 y/o DD