Originally Posted by Hilltopper1972
Originally Posted by markos
I like your plan, and the analytical approach you are taking.

It's got great promise.

Thanks. Why work so hard at trying to get my wife to love me and then ruin it with a 60 second attack. Pretty stupid if you ask me.

Yes. Our emotions make us do some pretty stupid things sometimes.

Basically, our instincts make us want to act in a way that will push away the person bothering us. It's a protection mechanism.

But because we are married to the person we are pushing away, doing so will have tremendous negative consequences! (UNDERSTATEMENT OF THE DECADE)

So we have to override those instincts and emotions with intelligence and rationality, like you are doing, and work a plan to change the things that are making us emotional and irrational. smile

If you are serious about saving your marriage, you can't get it all on this forum. You've got to listen to the Marriage Builders Radio show, every day. Install the app!

Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8.
Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010

If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.