Yes, I get stressed due to anticipating conflict. When certain subjects come up, either Prisca, or I, or both immediately become afraid, due to our history of not having resolved these things and having fights about them. I imagine it's that way in any marriage where issues have piled up.

As we have whittled down the issues I think it's gotten better. As I learn to stay relaxed while discussing emotional issues, I expect our rate of whittling down the issues to increase. smile

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Married to my radiant trophy wife, Prisca, 19 years. Father of 8.
Attended Marriage Builders weekend in May 2010

If your wife is not on board with MB, some of my posts to other men might help you.