Originally Posted by CWMI
Originally Posted by Hilltopper1972
Tomorrow I might be able to listen. In the mean time I have a question for you all. How do you deal with untrue accusations, even if they are not all that important? Wife sent me a text in the afternoon and said I had left the A/C on. I said, it must have been from the night before because I didn't turn the A/C on when I came home for lunch. She said that she had turned it off when she left in the morning. My inclination as a very literal person is to get the story straight. In the past I probably would have insisted on truth no matter how trivial and inflamed my wife more than likely. I ignored it because in the end what possible good could come from me pursuing truth on something as silly as that? Have any of you encountered this regularly? Does it bother you?

I started saying, "Thanks! I didn't know that."

It's truthful, it's kind, and it lets the other person feel heard.

Good call here. I like that model and will begin using it immediately.

Married 15 years
12 y/o DD
10 y/o DS
6 y/o DD