There was some meeting of my most important EN last night. There are some things I noticed that I need advice on. My wife is a competitive runner and is in incredible shape but is still self conscious about her body in numerous ways. No need to mention them specifically, and I've never treated her negatively or said anything disparaging about her body. For the most part I complement her on it frequently. Obviously there are changes after three children and a c-section and I think this is a huge barrier to SF for both of us. I noticed that if my wife has a glass of wine that SF happens more frequently, so as this is a rare occurrence because we are both training so much there are some things that need to be done in order to make her feel safe with me and comfortable about her body. Now that I play it back in my head, her self-esteem about her body occupies her mind constantly, in fact several times per day and her confidence really is unimproved with my verbal admiration. We are both losing 10 lbs before our vacation which is 3 weeks from now and we have both hit all of our goals. I'm mostly doing it for her, but one of the goals is to see if it improves how she sees her body. We never had this issue to contend with during the first five years of marriage but it definitely has compounded each year to the point where I think it occupies her thoughts just thinking about SF as well as during. Any suggestions?

Married 15 years
12 y/o DD
10 y/o DS
6 y/o DD